Prostate massagers are designed for internal use and shaped to rest against the prostate. Many people start out curious and unsure where to begin, so here's a straightforward guide.
Hands-free or vibrating?
- Hands-free (non-vibrating): move with your body's own muscle contractions. Aneros is the best-known brand. Good first picks: Aneros Eupho Trident Series Prostate Massager ($99.95) or Aneros Trident Series MGX Male G-Spot Stimulator White ($99.95).
- Vibrating: add vibration for stronger sensation, sometimes with an app. Examples: Aneros Vice 2 Vibrating Prostate Massager ($299.95) and Lovense Edge 2 Adjustable Prostate Massager ($179.95).
Choosing a size
Start small. A slimmer, smooth massager is easier and more comfortable at first. You can always try a larger model later.
Lube is essential
Always use plenty of lube. Water-based lube is the safe choice with every material (JO H2O Classic Personal Lubricant 16oz ($39.95)). Some people prefer a thicker lube for longer sessions.
Getting started
- Take your time and relax; there's no rush.
- Use lots of lube and go slowly.
- Stop if anything is painful.
- Many people take a few sessions to get comfortable. That's normal.
Cleaning
Wash with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner such as Sliquid Shine Natural Toy Cleaner 8.5 oz ($19.95) before and after each use, and dry fully.
Quick answers
Which is the best first prostate massager? A small hands-free model such as the Aneros Trident series.
Do I need lube? Yes, always. Use plenty of water-based lube.
Will the box say what's inside? No. Every order ships in a plain box, and your statement never lists the product.
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